What is Love? Part 2...Finding a Mate

I went all the way into the Cinema at Lancaster today to see Hannibal Rising. I enjoyed the movie greatly. Then I turned around and returned to school. Not exactly easy knowing that I was only like, a half hour from my home, my sister, my puppy, and my nice cozy bed. I still managed to make it back though.

So Jennings and I went over to a pizza place after the movie, and wound up having a very interesting conversation about our veiws on dating, marriage, what we want in a guy, etc. Basically I despise all people who find it necessary to say: I only date for marriage. I find this especially annoying when the person is still quite young, as in under 25. Do you honestly believe that you know exactly what you want out of your marriage partener? I have my doubts. Most people I know around my own age, still aren't even sure what they want to do for a career yet! Yet, if someone like me were to consider seeing a guy without a college education, my friends would be very quick to tell me that I was making a mistake, because we clearly wouldn't be compatible, and he wouldn't be going in the right direction for me. How the hell do they know? I want a career for myself, for all I know, I might be better of with a guy who isn't as career oriented, and could be more of a house-husband. I think those who are very quick to decide exactly what qualifications they are looking for in a mate, are depriving themselves greatly. Give a different sort of guy a chance once in a while. Who knows? Perhaps you'll learn something new and interesting, get a different perspective on life, or maybe you'll even learn something about yourself that you never even knew before. Just because you go out with the guy a few times does not mean that you have to marry him. We are young, we've got pleanty of time for this serious sort of stuff, enjoy your freedom while it lasts. I pity those who marry young. First of all, you're giving up a certain part of your life that you can't get back, and second, that marriage has a very low chance of succeeding. This is probably because you are still young, and still not sure of your self or what it is that you believe. What I considered to be my "ideal man" back in my high school years, I'd now consider some "poor pathetic soul without a clue" today. Also, I think a lot of kids my age are still blinded by "romantic love" and don't see what exactly might be behind it. Yeah, you fall in love with some guy who likes to say "you're worth more than all the stars in the night sky to me" and think that you are in love. True, you "fell in love" with him... but will you stay in love? Being in love with someone in general, is different from having "fallen in love with them". Basically this is the difference between romantic love and practical love. When you "fall in love" you run the risk of eventually "falling out of love" The passion does fade with time, and hopefully there is something lying beneith that passion to keep things together. That's why waiting for quite some time before getting married, is a fairly good idea. Make sure you're friends first. That's why, if you go into the relationship expecting marriage to some extent, you're setting yourself up for failure. Eventually, if you find yourself together for a few years, then it might become the right time to start considering this marriage idea.

So yeah... that's my current rant on this crazy little thing called "love". I just wanted to get that down before falling asleep and forgetting it. Perhaps I'll polish it up a bit better tomorrow and make it more coherant and readable.

Heh... perhaps this is why I'm so "intimidating"